In today’s world, it seems that, of the available selection of girls that exists for a 20-year-old male such as myself, there is a distinct division between two kinds of them: the cute ones, and the sexy ones.
I never try for the sexy girls – you know, the girls who turn heads when they enter the room and are typically described as “hot” and “smokin’.” These girls seem unapproachable, intimidating and unavailable. It’s almost like they’re too good-looking to notice the rest of the world.
Listen up, sexy girls, stop wearing the face-engulfing black sunglasses and walking around with that “don’t even think about it” look. Sure you’re hot, but that’s all (as far as I can tell), and you’ve been hit on and spoiled by the male population so much of your life that your personality hasn’t needed to develop much.
Not to say all sexy girls lack a decent personality, but the overall trend suggests so. Your looks may attract a large percent of the male population, but do you really want to marry a rich doctor who drives a Mercedes and sits around the house all day? Or do you want to marry a loving, caring man who actually likes you?
Then there are the cute girls, the ones you first look at and think, “Wow, now that’s a girl you bring home to Mom.” She’s sweet, nice and funny, and her ego isn’t the size of Paris Hilton’s. She’s approachable and talkative, and smiles constantly. And she’s a way better option than any sexy girl out there. She’s the one you tell your friends about. She even volunteers at the animal shelter every other Tuesday.
The main difference between these groups of girls isn’t looks – it’s personality. Personality (yes, we care about it too) is one of the most decisive factors for guys in determining who we’ll attempt to date. My theory is that cute girls, though, haven’t had the unconditional attention, stares and ego boost that the sexy ones have received since they were 12 years old, and thus their charisma and energy has had to develop in order to get attention.
Not to say it’s a needy, “I want you to notice me” attention, but they are not treated like something out of the ordinary, every second of every day. That makes them, in the end, more likeable and, ultimately, dateable.
So what am I trying to say?
Perhaps, ladies, stop worrying so much about your appearance, and watch a funny movie. Read a good book. Tell a joke, be outgoing and live your life. All of these things will contribute to the betterment of not only your personality, but your approachability and general outlook on life.
Not all guys are pigs, and we’re not all out to “get some.” Some of us just want to make you feel like the most special, amazing girl in the world.
But first you have to open up and let us.